Anger Management
One of the most misunderstood emotions is Anger. It is, what I consider, a powerful feeling that is often mistaken for the destruction of a relationship. Quite often it is, but does not have to be. When an individual is in touch with their emotions they can be comfortable in knowing that these feelings serve a purpose. They can be a motivator.
If an individual has a desire to improve their behavior or relationships with others awareness of what triggers their anger is helpful. In most cases individuals are unaware of their feelings. There often are many underlying causes for these intense reactions that may be difficult to acknowledge.
If an individual is willing to address what causes them to feel or behave in a certain way they can change what often is a destructive behavior into a constructive one. Therefore Anger is most definitely a powerful force for improving a persons’ life. Think of it this way: if you are unaware and unwilling you are unable to change. Subsequently awareness is the first step and Willingness the second – finally determination to make a change is what is key.
Most times what causes people to become angry isn’t the incident that most recently occurred. Our past plays a powerful role in how we react to certain incidences and individuals.
Anger can be internalized or externalized. When we internalize our anger it often turns to hypertension, elevated heart rates as well as other biological changes and can often trigger an emotionally inhibitor - depression. If this emotion is handled improperly it can cause far reaching and damaging effects. Anger can escalate from a thought to a very damaging action in seconds. Some of our internal processes can start from memories of a trauma to worries over personal, financial or physical problems. From the days of the Caveman our reaction to a threatening situation is either fight or flight. There are other more positive behaviors that can improve our lives when we learn new skills.
The tools that will enhance the quality of life are readily available and easily learned such as Communication Skills, Assertiveness Training, Empowerment, Anger Management and Stress Management. With time and practice patience will become a way of life and danger will no longer be one step away from Anger.
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